Politics, Perceptions & Peace-Making with Doug Noll

Politics, Perceptions & Peace-Making with Doug Noll

Politics, Perceptions and Peace-Making with Doug Noll

Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, and trainer. He is a highly experienced mediator. Doug’s work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts. In today’s episode, Doug talks to Monique about his work as a mediator and peacemaker, forcing him to confront human emotion straight on. After all, conflict is all about emotion. He discovered how to listen to others into existence. That led him to training inmates serving life sentences how to be peacemakers in maximum security prisons and then teaching his skills at the highest levels of government in Washington, D.C.

HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

[2:02] – Monique introduces her guest, Doug Noll.

 

[2:33] – How do we know that a person is actually a narcissist? 

  • They don’t have a clue.
  • We all are narcissists. We can’t be healthy without a certain amount of narcissism.

 

[3:06] – 2 types of narcissist:

  • Overt and maladaptive narcissist.

 

[12:47] – Doug talks about how he started as a peacemaker.

 

[23:17] – Doug talks about law enforcement.

 

[32:28] – Monique and Doug talk about the differences of Police brutality in the U.S and Germany.

 

[46:47] – Doug explains the big deal of beliefs.

 

[47:29] – Monique and Doug talk about flat earth society.

 

[56:12] – How we can talk to politically polarized people?

  • The number one rule and listening and talking to or being with a politically polarized person is you’re not going to talk, you got to listen.

 

[1:03:15] – Doug talks about how to get people who have these entrenched beliefs.

 

[1:09:38] –  What does efficiency mean to you?

  • Efficiency is generally using the least amount of energy to get the most done. 

 

[1:10:16] – If someone is in the middle of a huge conflict, and they want to make peace, what’s the three things that you would give them on the way?

  • Bring in a professional, you find a professional Peacemaker mediator to come in and help.
  • Recognize that all conflicts are highly emotional.
  • Hold as much compassion as you can, for the people you’re in conflict with.

 

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    IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

    Try to hold as much compassion as you can, for the people you’re in conflict with.

    Doug Noll

    Efficiency is generally using the least amount of energy to get the most done.

    Doug Noll

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    Masks, Media & Maniacs with Daniel Gefen

    Masks, Media & Maniacs with Daniel Gefen

    Masks, Media & Maniacs with Daniel Gefen

    Daniel went from jumping on classroom tables and getting detention for wanting attention to impacting millions of people in his underwear. He went from being completely invisible with no online following to growing his top rated podcast to over 250,000 downloads, interviewing billionaires and world class leaders and becoming an international bestselling author in less than 2 years. After being pitched hundreds of times by lazy PR agencies he launched Gefen Media Group - one of the first podcast booking agencies and helped influential authors sell hundreds of thousands of books by getting them on top rated podcasts. Seeing a gap in the market for people who couldn't afford to hire a booking agency, he launched Podbooker.com - a platform for guests and hosts to easily connect. In today’s episode, Daniel talks to Monique about outsourcing his entire company to a competitor, Grew it out of a Hotel Lobby for a year, went from invisible online to becoming a celebrity in his space in less than 2 years, wrote a book about self help addiction and became a number 1 best seller.

    HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

    [1:37] – Monique introduces her guest, Daniel Gefen.

     

    [4:59] – Where did you go to school?

    • I went to a school called Hasmonean High School. 
    •  I was the class clown. 

     

    [7:39] – Do you think you felt like you had to hide something?

    • I feel like most people wear masks.
    • Depending on who you’re with.

     

    [10:38] – Daniel talks about an analogy of heaven and hell.

     

    [15:01] – What was the journey as a child?

    • I have a hard time being told to do things that to me doesn’t make sense.

     

    [20:32] – Daniel talks about his problem when he started doing the podcast.

     

    [25:05] – Daniel talks about how he got into podcast booking services.

     

    [37:29] – Daniel explains how you can actually grow your podcast.

     

    [45:33] – Daniel talks about his experience while interviewing Robert Kiyosaki.

     

    [47:37] – What do you think triggered Robert Kiyosaki to go off like that on you?

    • I think I pushed a little bit on some sensitive points.
    • But hey, it’s my show. 

     

    [49:57] – What does efficiency mean to you?

    • Efficiency to me means doing what you love, and outsourcing everything else.

     

    [50:06] – Can you share tips that they should definitely know.

    • Don’t overthink, just start producing.
    • Not worry about what everyone else is doing. Just do whatever it is that you want to do.

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      Is your energy low, you are asking yourself where all the fun has been left and you just wish you had more time… you know for all of those things you don’t even dare to write down on one of your lists.  Then it’s time for you to read

      The T.I.M.E. Method™ – A no bullsh*t guide to creating an abundance of time

      IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

      What you think about me has nothing to do with me. Everyone’s just coming with their own background with their own masks.

      Daniel Gefen

      If we give to each other, we’re going to get, but if we’re trying to just get, then we’re not going to get anything.

      Daniel Gefen

      Efficiency to me means doing what you love, and outsourcing everything else.

      Daniel Gefen

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      Music, Marketing & Modern Jewish Traditions with Franciska Kosman

      Music, Marketing & Modern Jewish Traditions with Franciska Kosman

      Music, Marketing & Modern Jewish Traditions with Franciska Kosman

      Kay Productions CEO/founder Franciska Kosman is a Jewish Orthodox Art-preneur who started her career as a singer and composer and became an international artist and performer, having released over 60 singles. She then moved on to launch Kay Productions, which offers a unique combination of services, from content development to producing, marketing, and – most importantly – ways to make an IMPACT with a message worth sharing. She started her own podcast: The Franciska Show, to give voice to the inspiring stories of Orthodox Jewish female artists. Traditionally, women's voices have been stifled for ages, nevertheless, modern technology has opened up new horizons for women to engage with their audiences in a variety of ways that were unheard of a decade ago. In today’s episode, Franciska talks to Monique about being a dedicated activist for her community and effectively uses her platform to empower other musicians and artists around her.

      HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

      [1:35] – Monique introduces her guest, Franciska Kosman.

      [2:49] – Franciska talks about her challenges growing up and actually not being allowed to sing.

      [6:47] – What about the talking? Were you able to speak publicly?

      • You go based on communities.
      • There are communities where women are not public speakers for male audiences.
      • It’s more like ingrained in tradition.

      [11:53] – Where in the Soviet Union did you move?

      • I was born when my parents were already living there. So I grew up fully in Moscow. My mother is from the States, and my father is from Switzerland.

      [13:57] – What was the difference for you when you first moved to the US and how did you experience art and expressing yourself?

      • I experienced that transition most when I moved here and when I was recruited to teach 

      [20:47] – Tell me about how you got into podcasting and why you decided to choose that as a platform for your singing and your art?

      •  A mentor of mine suggested, “why not do podcasting”? 

      [28:01] – Why do you think now that you have gone through all of this journey, would a podcast be beneficial to entrepreneurs or business owners?

      • It’s an amazing tool if used right.
      • The way I see it is, it’s a real tool. 

      [31:49] – What do you tell your clients to do for people to listen to a podcast?

      • Catchy titles.
      • Repurposing your content.
      • Having great guests.

      [38:06] – What would you say would be a good way to encourage them to share the episode?

      • I have the same issue.
        I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong. I think this is the default.

      [46:47] – Why do you think people should be listening to podcasts?

      • Because it’s a new platform.
      • People are used to TV, people are used to the radio, and podcasts are just one notch higher.

      [50:21] –  What does efficiency mean to you?

      • Efficiency to me means doing the most with the least.

      [50:38] – Which of the three things would you keep doing over and over again to get back to success?

      • Creating my music studio.
      • Podcasting
      • Hiring My coach

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      TIME in your life?

      Are you constantly chasing time, feeling like your to-do lists filling up faster than you can work them off? Overwhelm, stress and exhaustion are your weekly companions even though you didn’t invite them over … and too often you are saying yes to things you actually wanted to say no to? 

      Is your energy low, you are asking yourself where all the fun has been left and you just wish you had more time… you know for all of those things you don’t even dare to write down on one of your lists.  Then it’s time for you to read

      The T.I.M.E. Method™ – A no bullsh*t guide to creating an abundance of time

      IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

      Efficiency to me means doing the most with the least.

      Franciska Kosman

      Podcast is amazing tool if used right.

      Franciska Kosman

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      Power, Patriarchy & Playing Games with Joanne Bagshaw & Adrienne Lawrence

      Power, Patriarchy & Playing Games with Joanne Bagshaw & Adrienne Lawrence

      Power, Patriarchy & Playing Games with Joanne Bagshaw & Adrienne Lawrence

      Joanne Bagshaw, PhD, LCPC is an award-winning professor of psychology and women’s studies at Montgomery College. She is also an AASECT-certified sex therapist with a private practice in Maryland and she the author of "The Feminist Handbook: Practical Tools to Resist Sexism and Dismantle the Patriarchy“. She also writes the popular feminist blog, “The Third Wave,” for Psychology Today. Before specialising as a sex and relationship therapist, Joanne was a trauma therapist, working primarily with rape and sexual assault, intimate partner violence, and adults who were abused as children. Joanne brings her nearly two decades of experience as a therapist to help clients transform their relationships and lead happier and healthier lives. As an award-winning on-air commentator and a Women's Media Center Progressive Voice of 2018, Adrienne Lawrence does more than just talk. The former litigator empowers the everyday professional with her engaging on-air legal analysis and with candid advice in her book, “Staying in the Game: The Playbook for Beating Workplace Sexual Harassment,” a first-of-its-kind survival guide published by Penguin Random House’s TarcherPerigee on May 12, 2020. Staying in the Game has been heralded as “a must-read for any woman in any workplace”. Whenever she’s not writing about workplace sexual harassment issues or furiously tweeting about gender parity problems, Adrienne's engaging audiences while speaking in large forums like SXSW, coaching clients as part of Jennifer Brown Consulting, or breaking down trending legal issues for outlets such as The Young Turks and NPR. In today’s episode, Joanne and Adrienne talks to Monique about sexual harassment, power & healing while centring a Black woman's experience. Knowing how to handle sexual harassment when it happens increases efficiency!

      HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

      [1:18] – Monique introduces her guests, Joanne Bagshaw & Adrienne Lawrence.

       

      [1:51] – Tell us about who you are, what you do and where you’re from?

              • I’m Adrienne Lawrence, I’m from Los Angeles, California. I’m an attorney turned TV broadcaster and I wrote a book called staying in the game.
              • I’m Joanne Bagshaw, I’m from Long Island, New York. I’m a professor of Psychology and Women’s studies and a sexual relationship therapist and the author of the feminist handbook.

       

      [3:11] – What got you to the point of writing the book about feminism, making sure women understand it’s not them but the patriarchy?

              • The telling story from my childhood that resonates today with feminism and helps lead me down the path of being a feminist is that I’m an adoptee. 
              • After eight years of practicing law, I wanted more for myself, I wanted to challenge myself. 

       

      [11:53] –  What do you think is the impact of adoptions on kids?

              • That really depends on the adoptive parents and the birth parents on what kind of arrangement they make.

       

      [16:06] – What do you think should be changed to be able to create better better systems?

              • The first step is to get more women in politics. 
              • A patriarchy is a male dominated system, and we have mostly men making these decisions.

       

      [35:48] – So, this is for the both of you, what would be one thing that you wish women would change in themselves, in terms of interactions excluding women in order to improve the situation?

              • I would like more women to speak up to call people out. 
              • I would like to specifically call on white women to speak up.

       

      [42:41] – Joanne talks about what feminism is all about.

       

      [45:42] – What are we going to do to those people who’re telling us that we are making up everything in our mind?

              • My thought is that your thoughts of me have nothing to do with me.
              • So if you think I’m making things up in my mind, you tell yourself what you need to tell yourself to not address your behavior.

       

      [54:06] – What does efficiency mean to you?

              • Not having to do everything myself.
              • Efficiency should be maximizing your time to focus on the things that are aligned with your goals.

       

      [55:13] –  Which of the three things would you keep doing over and over again to get back to success?

              • I’m definitely still going to law school.
              • I’m probably gonna still get all of the schooling that I got. 
              • I think for me, trusting my intuition.
              • Moving off of Long Island earlier.
              • Maintaining my educational background.

      IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

      If you think I’m making things up in my mind, you tell yourself what you need to tell yourself to not address your behavior.

      Adrienne Lawrence

      Efficiency means getting help.

      Joanne Bagshaw

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      Community, Challenges & Choices with Joshua Chin

      Community, Challenges & Choices with Joshua Chin

      Community, Challenges & Choices with Joshua Chin

      Joshua Chin is the co-founder and CEO of Chronos Agency, an eCommerce marketing agency helping eCommerce brands scale profits with email marketing. They have worked well with over 200 eCommerce brands to date, boosting their clients’ revenues by an average of 20-30%. In today’s episode, Joshua talks to Monique about how this company was actually built in a dorm room, a full time internship and degree at the same time and graduating on time, with a team of 30 full timers at the point of graduation.

      HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

      [1:21] – Monique introduces her guest, Joshua Chin.

      [4:51] –  How’s the situation in Singapore right now?

          • It’s been tough for the past three months.

      [12:26] – Joshua talks about a Youtube channel regarding documentaries on vaccines.

      [27:49] – How did you start it out? Did you have a community around?

          • At the start I didn’t exactly have a community.
          • My company was launched in a dorm room.

      [37:44] – When did you actually move to Singapore?

          • That was in 2009 and I was 12 years old back then. 

      [55:22] – What would you say to people who don’t have a network? How to find it for themselves?

          • Start messaging random people on Facebook.

      [1:04:54] – Joshua talks about introverts in general.

      [1:23:23] – What does efficiency mean to you?

          • Getting what you want in the most effective way.

      [1:24:05] – Which of the three things would you keep doing over and over again to get back to success?

          • Focus on building meaningful relationships. 
          • Think in systems and not in kind of individual tasks.
          • I would probably rethink the number of meetings I’m taking in any given week.

       

      AWESOME RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

       

      IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

      I find that introverts are generally the best one on one connectors that are able to form much deeper relationships in a one on one basis.

      Joshua Chin

      Think in systems and not in kind of individual tasks.

      Joshua Chin

      Efficiency is getting what you want in the most effective way.

      Joshua Chin

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