Values, Validation & Vulnerability with Cody Jefferson

Values, Validation & Vulnerability with Cody Jefferson

by | May 26, 2020 | Impactful Leadership, Mindset Mastery

Values, Validation & Vulnerability with Cody Jefferson

Recognized as one of the country's leading personal and professional coaches by several major publications, Cody has been walking alongside thousands of entrepreneurs, leaders, and professionals on the subjects of personal ownership and development, communication, leadership, and marketing/branding for nearly 2 decades.Cody is the founder and CEO of Embrace The Lion, and the creator of LION Method, the #1 Group Coaching Program for High-Achieving Men and Women looking to adopt the right support, belief, habits, and community to create success in their lives and businesses.In today’s episode, Cody and Monique are talking about how important it is to have really great mentors throughout your life, what it means to be vulnerable and how it can help shift your perspective in your business and life.

HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

[01:42] – Monique introduces her guest, Cody Jefferson.

 

[01:56] – Who are you and what are you doing?

  • My name is Cody Jefferson.
  • For the past nearly 20 years, I have helped individuals, organizations tell better stories. 

 

[03:09] – Walk me a little bit through how you actually got into storytelling?

  • When I was 18, I got involved with a church here locally and started working for the church and that ended up being a 13-year career and all telling stories and recognizing that everyone has a story. They’re just waiting for someone to listen.

 

[12:38] – What was your approach to thinking that there’s nothing out there that helps you? How did you use what you’ve learned from your grandfather, to go through all of what just happened to you?

  • I’ve been really fortunate to have some really great mentors throughout my entire life, and really powerful men and women who are extraordinary individuals who pour into me, and they’ve been very fortunate for that. 

 

[25:43] – Cody explains two types of leaders.

 

[41:26] – When you left the church as a pastor, did you also leave your beliefs behind?

  • When I stepped out of the church and I step away from my faith.
  • I had a lot of questions.

 

[49:23] – What would you wish people would have asked you more?

  • I would say stop asking so many questions, start moving towards that which you desire with what you have in your hands and what you have in your head and what you have in your heart.

 

[52:36] – What does efficiency mean to you?

  • Efficiency means being responsible with the vision.

 

[53:56] – Which of the three things would you do over and over again, to get to success if you have to start out over?

  • Feeding my mind.
  • Feeding my body.
  • Feeding my relationships.

     

    AWESOME RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

     

    Loving What Is | Book by Byron Katie

    The Cost of Discipleship | Book by: Dietrich Bonhoeffer

    IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

    Everyone has a story. They’re just waiting for someone to listen.

    Cody Jefferson

    I am not what I think I am, and I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.

    Charles Cooley

    Show me what you’re doing every day. And I’ll tell you what you actually believe to be true about yourself.

    Cody Jefferson

    FIND OUT MORE ABOUT

    Cody Jefferson
     https://lionmethod.com/ready

    Instagram  https://instagram.com/cody_jefferson

     https://.facebook.com/michaelcodyjefferson
    Expectations, Empowerment & Ethnic Minorities with Sheng Herr

    Expectations, Empowerment & Ethnic Minorities with Sheng Herr

    by | Apr 22, 2020 | Impactful Leadership, Mindset Mastery

    Expectations, Empowerment & Ethnic Minorities with Sheng Herr

    A business strategist and founder of the minority girl boss society - empowers minority service-based and creative girl bosses to build their dream business, market it online, and create a life that they love.Raised in the Hmong culture, which has many limiting rules and expectations of women, Sheng has boldly stepped out of the boundaries of her culture!In today’s episode, Sheng and Monique are talking about the big & important mission to empower minority women entrepreneurs to have it all!

    HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

    [1:34] – Monique introduces her guest, Sheng Herr.

     

    [1:57] – Tell everyone who you are. What you’re doing? Where are you from?

    • My name is Sheng.
    • I am a business, diversity and inclusivity strategist.

     

    [3:19] – Tell me a little bit more about how you got to work in the space of minorities.

    • I keep having this hunger.
    • It was like a calling for me.

     

    [5:46] – Tell everyone a little bit about where you were born and what’s your ethnicity.

    • I was born in Thailand, and then I came to America around three years old. 
    • I grew up within the Hmong culture, and I was bouncing this American culture.

     

    [7:19] – Can you explain a little bit about what is the Hmong community?

    • The Hmong community originated in China.
    •  There are many different types of Hmong and then a lot of us, some of us migrated to America. 

     

    [13:05] – Sheng talks about how blessed she is for having a business partner and husband at the same time.

     

    [15:20] – How you felt like having this supportive community and having friends from different cultures?

    • I just went and look for those communities who supported me.

     

    [18:36] – How do you go about seeking them out and what would be the first steps to approach them?

    • Google, Facebook.
    •  I just asked the people I would meet daily.

     

    [22:02] – Have you had a lot of cultural experiences within relationships?

    • No, not at all.
    • I was very strategic with my relationships.

     

    [34:38] – Tell me a little bit about how you’re raising your boys and how you’re making sure you are preserving your culture while being the rebellious beautiful woman that you are.

    • The way I’m raising my boys completely different is that in our culture, we don’t say I love you.
    • So the way I preserve my culture with them is that my husband I decided to homeschool them.

     

    [52:04] – What does efficiency mean to you?

    • Efficiency means a focus on the things that will bring you happiness and fulfillment and will create an impact in the world. 

     

    [53:10] – What are the three things that you would keep doing over and over again to get to success again?

    • Own your identity.
    • Know your self-worth.
    • Use the power of choices.

     

    AWESOME RESOURCES WE TALKED ABOUT

    IN THIS EPISODE

     

    Learn about the Hmong Culture

    Daughters Rising: Women Empowerment Program for Ethnic Minorties & Refugees

    Ethnic Minorities in Thailand

    IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

    The only way we can break those barriers is if we insert ourselves into that community.

    Sheng Herr

    If you teach the children accountability, the future will be fine.

    Sheng Herr

    Efficiency means to focus on the things that will bring you happiness and fulfillment and will create an impact in the world.

    Sheng Herr

    FIND OUT MORE ABOUT

      https://www.shengherr.com/

       https://www.instagram.com/shengherr/

       https://www.linkedin.com/in/shengherr/

    Poverty, Pain & The Power of Progression with John Marrone

    Poverty, Pain & The Power of Progression with John Marrone

    by | Feb 25, 2020 | Impactful Leadership, Lifestyle

    Poverty, Pain & The Power of Progression with John Marrone

    John Marrone ultimately hit rock bottom when he found himself sitting in a jail cell after years over years of living life full of selfishness, anger & in a victim mentality. One day, he found himself sitting in the attic with 4 feet of water in the house during Hurricane Sandy John had the fear of death and he realized that enough was enough and he no longer wanted to live a mediocre life and felt compelled to ensure that no one else lives a life of mediocrity either. He set out to arm himself with whatever it took to help people become the best version of themselves. He relentlessly spent the last decade studying and interviewing the most innovative, inspiring, and brilliant minds in the world. Now, as a world-renown speaker and life coach sharing the stage with people like Tony Robbins and Eric Thomas, In today’s episode, John and Monique are talking about John’s mission to help you peel back the layers and unveil the authentic and unstoppable you.

    HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

    [01:56] – Monique introduces her guest, John Marrone.

     

    [02:34] – Tell everyone a little bit about you.

    • I’m a transformational coach as well as a transformational speaker.
    • I give actionable tools to start creating the ultimate version of that person so they could design a life they always wanted to live.

     

    [05:15] – Tell me what is your version of the motivation turning that into inspiration and then into transformation with your clients.

    • It starts with the reason.
    • Motivation is temporary, inspiration lasts a little bit longer, but your “WHY” is the whole thing that keeps you going.

     

    [09:26] – When was the first time in your life that kind of like your alarm went off and did you listen to it?

    • Choose where you’re at now as the bottom and never going any further and use that as your platform to go ahead and expedite everything you’re doing to get the results you want.

     

    [20:26] – Why do you think you got addicted? Why do you think you got to the point to jail? Why do you think you ended up in that house with Hurricane Sandy when everybody else may be left? Why do you think you ended up there?

    • I try to fit in everywhere because I think I was trying to be accepted. And so that became an addiction to become accepted.
    • And going back to Hurricane Sandy, the label was like, I’m invincible.

     

    [25:25] – Why did ending up in jail not change anything for you but the hurricane did?

    • I just spent six months on house arrest like nothing’s changed. And then I met my wife.
    • When Hurricane Sandy came, and I thought I was gonna die. I realized it could be gone like that.
    • I realized life is so precious.

     

    [35:50] – So how does this control part show up for you?

    • Either you want to control or you want fulfillment. You can’t have both. 

    [44:15] –  If you have someone who’s struggling with knowing who they are and trying to fit in, how would you tell them how to take off their masks without worrying that they’re not accepted or they don’t belong?

    • The first step is you got to know who you are. 
    • You can’t be everything to everyone.
    • Care about what the right people think.
    • The hardest thing to do is to be authentically you.

     

    [51:35] – Besides all of the titles, in one sentence, who is John Marrone?

    • Somebody who realizes that his past doesn’t determine his future, somebody who wants to create the ultimate version of himself and his life he always wants to live while doing it to the masses and helping others.

     

    [58:30] – What does efficiency mean to you?

    • Efficiency means to me daily progression.

     

    [59:51] – If you had to start all over again, which of the three things would you keep doing to get where you are today?

    • Number one is perspective. 
    • Number two is massive self-awareness.
    • And three, be grateful for where you’re at and then get comfortable being uncomfortable.

       

      AWESOME RESOURCES WE TALKED ABOUT

      IN THIS EPISODE

       

      [18:41] – Monique’s TEDx talk about Turning Pain into Power: https://www.moniquelindner.com/tedx-chiang-mai-women-the-power-of-resiliency/

      [43:57] – Brené Brown: https://fs.blog/2014/10/brene-brown-guilt-shame/

      [1:02:34] – John Marrone’s Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/power-of-progression/id1437080390

      IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

      Motivation is temporary, inspiration lasts a little bit longer. But your “WHY” is the whole thing that keeps you going.

      John Marrone

      Worrying about tomorrow’s problems ruins today’s piece

      John Marrone

      Choose where you’re at now as the bottom and never going any further and use that as your platform to go ahead and expedite everything you’re doing to get the results you want.

      John Marrone

      FIND OUT MORE ABOUT

      Website: https://johnmarrone.com/

      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realjohnmarrone/

      Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvguovURTnd5gLg1OZkICfQ?app=desktop

      Dating, Data & Discussions with Kyree Oliver

      Dating, Data & Discussions with Kyree Oliver

      by | Jan 6, 2020 | Impactful Leadership, Lifestyle

      Dating, Data & Discussions with Kyree Oliver

      Meet the young man who owns a marketing company, is a life coach, business consultant and so much more. Kyree Oliver started in 2013 and didn't have any idea about what a podcast is all about. All he wanted to do, was impacting people. So he started asking people in his nuclear environment and beyond, to talk to him. He interviewed them on all kinda topics, in order to understand the quest of life a bit more. First, Kyree started with his friends, uncles, and slowly moved to interviewing doctors, lawyer, monks and even death row inmates. In today’s episode Monique and Kyree talk about how he gave himself an opportunity to pull from multiple different sources as a role model and how he now uses this knowledge to impact people on the daily.

      HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

      [01:56] – Monique welcomes her guest, Kyree Oliver

       

      [02:04] – Tell us a little bit about your background.

          • I’m from California
          • I own a marketing company. I do sort of life coaching. I do business consulting for people

      [03:35] – How did you get to the point of being able to communicate calmly, but also to just give space to all of these different perspectives?

          • I think it was detaching myself from other people’s perspectives. Like, they don’t need to think the way that I think in order for me to think the way that I think.

      [06:00] – Where does that come from? Why would we want to influence other people’s opinions so much?

          • All of us think that if more people thought like us, the world would be a better place. I think everybody thinks that

      [07:19] – How would you take steps to the detachment of other people’s opinions?

          • I don’t think I’d say anything to those people. Our perspective isn’t the same

      [09:09] – How do you navigate the in-between of like voicing your opinion without discriminating against other people?

          • My job is to make as compelling a case as possible for people to either agree with the way that I think or figure out a better way to think about that same topic.

      [11:39] – How did you get into like, being so focused on this topic (masculinity), and why is it so important that we are talking about it?

          • So I think that no matter who we are as people, no matter what group we belong to, what country you’re from, I think we’re all led by masculine and feminine energy

      [12:50] – Did you have the role models that you needed as a child?

          • I had multiple role models.
          • And by me not having that (father figure), it gave me an opportunity to pull from multiple different sources.

      [13:49] – Can you give me a rough picture of what masculinity looks like to you?

          • Three pillars
          1. A soft heart is your empathy.
          2. Thick skin is your emotional intelligence.
          3. The hard head is your grit determination.

      [16:06] – How did you learn all of these things and then adapting it to your own version.

          • I think I just started piecing information together and I started seeing trends.

      [17:44] – How did you conduct these 800+ interviews and how did you get people to speak to you?

          • I just started asking the people around me I started asking co-workers, family, friends, and it kind of just grew from there
          • I’ve interviewed almost any type of person you can think of.

      [19:00] – What stuck out to you when you interviewed all of them?

          • I genuinely just listened to people for who they were and what their experiences were.

      [20:22] – What made the difference for you when you switched over from work first to basically life first?

          • I learned how I’m supposed to set my life up before it needed to be set up that way.

      [23:46] – I want to know if you have any dating efficiency tips?

          • The people who are most skeptical about it, they see it as a waste of time. They’re usually people who aren’t very good at it. And often they’re not very good at it. Because they haven’t put a whole lot of time in developing themselves to be the right person to do it.

      [26:29] – How can they find out about it?

          • It’s all asking yourself those difficult questions.
          • And I think you can do to dig until you come up with an answer

      [28:22] – How do you make sure you don’t have to be just one thing and you’re good at advertising and life coaching?

          • Commitment to being a well-rounded person is probably the biggest thing.

       

      [29:40] – Monique talks about Ikigai.

          • The Japanese concept of combining the thing that you’re really good at was the thing that you’re really passionate at was the thing that you can make money off into your life’s purpose

      [31:14] – How do you assess the person itself and not what they were doing?

          • I start forming my opinion or informing my opinion just based on how I watch them interact with themselves and the world around them.

      [32:05] – Is it more important for you of how people act or how they speak?

          • Both are very important.

      [32:27] – What would you tell to influence a million people right in front of you?

          • Probably it would be just sort of generic advice of finding what’s right for you and chasing what that is

      [34:14] – Is there a specific routine to improve yourself?

          • I wouldn’t say that there’s a routine as far as how to change it. It’s just a consistent, concerted effort.

       

      [35:34] – What does efficiency mean to you, then?

          • I would boil it down to the best use of time. And maybe the best use of time is to relax sometimes maybe the best thing is to not do anything.

       

      [36:33] – what would be time-wasters for you?

          • The time that I spend leading up to what I know I’m supposed to do or what I know, I need to do next.

       

      [38:03] – Which would be the top three things that you would suggest anyone doing?

          • I’d say getting very clear on what your purpose is as quickly as possible and then designing your life around what that purpose is.

       

      AWESOME RESOURCES WE TALKED ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE

       

      [29:40] -Ikigai:

      https://www.amazon.com/Ikigai-Japanese-Secret-Long-Happy-ebook/dp/B01NAG34EH

      IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

      They don’t need to think the way that I think in order for me to think the way that I think

      Kyree Oliver

      The goal is to grow. The goal isn’t to be correct

      Kyree Oliver

      Getting very clear on what your purpose very quickly or as quickly as possible and then designing your life around what that purpose is
      Kyree Oliver

      FIND OUT MORE ABOUT KYREE OLIVER

      Website
      www.influkz.com

      Facebook
      Facebook.com/kyreeoliver1994

      Instagram
      Instagram.con/Kyree

      People, Power & Performance with Mads Singers

      People, Power & Performance with Mads Singers

      by | Dec 17, 2019 | Business, Impactful Leadership

      People, Power & Performance with Mads Singers

      Meet Mads Singers, the Top Management Coach, and Consultant. He helps business owners focus on running and growing their business rather than working in it.Allow Mads to change your approach to management and the way you interact and communicate with team members and learn how DISC can change your business. Let’s learn more about Mads together with your host, Monique.

      HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

      [01:11] – Monique introduces her guest, Mads Singers.

       

      [01:43] – Tell our audience a little bit about who you are.

      • Originally from Denmark and spent 20 years being in management and this is my passion.

      [04:20] – Tell me what are the huge difference between leadership and management?

      • Most people feel management is a big scary thing.
      • The reason why most people find management very scary is, that they’ve never spent any time improving it

       

      [07:48] – Mads talks about how small things can make huge differences.

      [13:40] – Mads explains how you get the good stuff by looking at the things from the good side.

      [14:50] – Mads describes personalities sort of behavioural tools.

      [18:13] – Mads talks about different kinds of people.

       

      [20:03] – Can you explain more about the DISC profile?

      • D – Dominance. Describes dominant people.
      • I – Influence. People who love getting attention.
      • S – Steadiness. People who always think about everyone else before they think about themselves.
      • C – Compliance. For very detail-oriented people. 

       

      [23:59] – Mads explains the DISC profile in detail. 

      [24:25] – When you we first met, what did you think was my result?

      • Your fundamentals from a basic point of view shows a DC.
      • You’re extremely task-focused. 

       

      [25:19] – Monique and Mads discuss cultural aspects that play into DISC results.

      [28:57] – Mads talks about clients he’s working with. 

      [30:13] – Monique and Mads explain what core value means. 

       

      [34:22] – Tell me about how you actually got started with this work and why you’re doing it?

      • I am a naturally high S and a high C and my passion is helping people so that’s sort of the primary drive for myself.

       

      [35:40] – What was the most unbelievable story throughout your coaching?

      • Mads tells the story of a client and his team
      • The problem is a lot of people like new shit, they like getting more responsibility.

       

      [38:07] –  What does efficiency mean to you?

      • For me, it’s all about prioritization.
      • it’s really about if are you using the time on the right things?

         

        AWESOME RESOURCES WE TALKED ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE

         

        Find Mads management course here: https://madssingers.com/management-academy/

        More information about the DiSC profile: https://www.discprofile.com/what-is-disc/overview/

        Free DISC test (short version): https://discpersonalitytesting.com/free-disc-test/

        IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

        The small things are what can make huge differences

        Mads Singers

        People find management very scary because they never spent any time improving it

        Mads Singers

        The more you can look at things from the good side, the more you get the good stuff out of it
        Mads Singers

        FIND MORE ABOUT MADS SINGERS HERE

         

        Website: https://madssingers.com/

        FB: https://www.facebook.com/MadsSingers

        Podcast: https://madssingers.com/podcasts/