Power, Patriarchy & Playing Games with Joanne Bagshaw & Adrienne Lawrence

Power, Patriarchy & Playing Games with Joanne Bagshaw & Adrienne Lawrence

Power, Patriarchy & Playing Games with Joanne Bagshaw & Adrienne Lawrence

Joanne Bagshaw, PhD, LCPC is an award-winning professor of psychology and women’s studies at Montgomery College. She is also an AASECT-certified sex therapist with a private practice in Maryland and she the author of "The Feminist Handbook: Practical Tools to Resist Sexism and Dismantle the Patriarchy“. She also writes the popular feminist blog, “The Third Wave,” for Psychology Today. Before specialising as a sex and relationship therapist, Joanne was a trauma therapist, working primarily with rape and sexual assault, intimate partner violence, and adults who were abused as children. Joanne brings her nearly two decades of experience as a therapist to help clients transform their relationships and lead happier and healthier lives. As an award-winning on-air commentator and a Women's Media Center Progressive Voice of 2018, Adrienne Lawrence does more than just talk. The former litigator empowers the everyday professional with her engaging on-air legal analysis and with candid advice in her book, “Staying in the Game: The Playbook for Beating Workplace Sexual Harassment,” a first-of-its-kind survival guide published by Penguin Random House’s TarcherPerigee on May 12, 2020. Staying in the Game has been heralded as “a must-read for any woman in any workplace”. Whenever she’s not writing about workplace sexual harassment issues or furiously tweeting about gender parity problems, Adrienne's engaging audiences while speaking in large forums like SXSW, coaching clients as part of Jennifer Brown Consulting, or breaking down trending legal issues for outlets such as The Young Turks and NPR. In today’s episode, Joanne and Adrienne talks to Monique about sexual harassment, power & healing while centring a Black woman's experience. Knowing how to handle sexual harassment when it happens increases efficiency!

HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

[1:18] – Monique introduces her guests, Joanne Bagshaw & Adrienne Lawrence.

 

[1:51] – Tell us about who you are, what you do and where you’re from?

          • I’m Adrienne Lawrence, I’m from Los Angeles, California. I’m an attorney turned TV broadcaster and I wrote a book called staying in the game.
          • I’m Joanne Bagshaw, I’m from Long Island, New York. I’m a professor of Psychology and Women’s studies and a sexual relationship therapist and the author of the feminist handbook.

 

[3:11] – What got you to the point of writing the book about feminism, making sure women understand it’s not them but the patriarchy?

          • The telling story from my childhood that resonates today with feminism and helps lead me down the path of being a feminist is that I’m an adoptee. 
          • After eight years of practicing law, I wanted more for myself, I wanted to challenge myself. 

 

[11:53] –  What do you think is the impact of adoptions on kids?

          • That really depends on the adoptive parents and the birth parents on what kind of arrangement they make.

 

[16:06] – What do you think should be changed to be able to create better better systems?

          • The first step is to get more women in politics. 
          • A patriarchy is a male dominated system, and we have mostly men making these decisions.

 

[35:48] – So, this is for the both of you, what would be one thing that you wish women would change in themselves, in terms of interactions excluding women in order to improve the situation?

          • I would like more women to speak up to call people out. 
          • I would like to specifically call on white women to speak up.

 

[42:41] – Joanne talks about what feminism is all about.

 

[45:42] – What are we going to do to those people who’re telling us that we are making up everything in our mind?

          • My thought is that your thoughts of me have nothing to do with me.
          • So if you think I’m making things up in my mind, you tell yourself what you need to tell yourself to not address your behavior.

 

[54:06] – What does efficiency mean to you?

          • Not having to do everything myself.
          • Efficiency should be maximizing your time to focus on the things that are aligned with your goals.

 

[55:13] –  Which of the three things would you keep doing over and over again to get back to success?

          • I’m definitely still going to law school.
          • I’m probably gonna still get all of the schooling that I got. 
          • I think for me, trusting my intuition.
          • Moving off of Long Island earlier.
          • Maintaining my educational background.

IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

If you think I’m making things up in my mind, you tell yourself what you need to tell yourself to not address your behavior.

Adrienne Lawrence

Efficiency means getting help.

Joanne Bagshaw

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Boybands, Business & Breaking Orbit with Fredrick Douglas Bussey

Boybands, Business & Breaking Orbit with Fredrick Douglas Bussey

Boybands, Business & Breaking Orbit with Fredrick Douglas Bussey

Fredrick Douglas Bussey is the author of the book “Breaking Orbit: Rip Out of the Regular By Unearthing the Power Within”. Fredrick coaches entrepreneurs and executives to unleash the power of their gift and create extraordinary results with the uniqueness that only they can bring into the world. As a serial entrepreneur and creative with more than 20 years experience in the Music & Entertainment industry, he has worked as a Songwriter, Producer, Publicist, Marketing Representative, Creative Director, and Artist Manager. In today’s episode, Fredrick talks to Monique about his purpose in life, to use his talents in helping others to discover and exploit their gifts to impact the world for the greatest good. He is passionate about helping others to develop their skill set to become successful, while attaining the freedom that entrepreneurship provides. Fredrick is a frequent speaker & presenter at schools, live events & conferences.

HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

[2:47] – Monique introduces her guest, Douglas Bussey.

 

[3:36] – Tell us about who you are, what you do, where you’re from?

  • I am a serial entrepreneur, author, speaker, business and leadership coach and I help entrepreneurs and leaders to realize the untapped potential they have to create the life that they deserve.

 

[9:21] – What was it that clicked for you that said “it was okay for you to be who you were?”

  • I’m still on the journey to have a few things that I need to be okay with myself.

 

[28:27] – Monique talks about Peter Crone as one of the most transformational person to work with.

 

[33:13] – Douglas talks about our lives being defined by identity.

 

[34:59] – Douglas explains trauma is a part of life. 

 

[48:14] – How have you been dealing with that identity shift of being in a boy band, having your passion and your creativity, and then suddenly not being in a boy band and then having to redefine who you are after that?

  • There was a process. It was gradual.

 

[1:00:23] –  What does efficiency mean to you?

  • Efficiency means walking in your gift. 

 

[1:00:51] – Which of the three things would you keep doing over and over again to get back to success?

  • In my book, there are three laws of gifts I talked about.
  • Everyone is creating with a gift.
  • Every gift is created with a purpose.
  • No gift can fail at the purpose for which it was created. 

    IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

    You can’t grow your business if you don’t personally grow and develop yourself.

    Fredrick Douglas Bussey

    There was nothing more efficient, nothing more productive in the world than being yourself.

    Fredrick Douglas Bussey

    Efficiency means walking in your gift.

    Fredrick Douglas Bussey

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    Community, Challenges & Choices with Joshua Chin

    Community, Challenges & Choices with Joshua Chin

    Community, Challenges & Choices with Joshua Chin

    Joshua Chin is the co-founder and CEO of Chronos Agency, an eCommerce marketing agency helping eCommerce brands scale profits with email marketing. They have worked well with over 200 eCommerce brands to date, boosting their clients’ revenues by an average of 20-30%. In today’s episode, Joshua talks to Monique about how this company was actually built in a dorm room, a full time internship and degree at the same time and graduating on time, with a team of 30 full timers at the point of graduation.

    HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

    [1:21] – Monique introduces her guest, Joshua Chin.


    [4:51] –  How’s the situation in Singapore right now?

        • It’s been tough for the past three months.

    [12:26] – Joshua talks about a Youtube channel regarding documentaries on vaccines.


    [27:49] – How did you start it out? Did you have a community around?

        • At the start I didn’t exactly have a community.
        • My company was launched in a dorm room.

    [37:44] – When did you actually move to Singapore?

        • That was in 2009 and I was 12 years old back then. 

    [55:22] – What would you say to people who don’t have a network? How to find it for themselves?

        • Start messaging random people on Facebook.

    [1:04:54] – Joshua talks about introverts in general.


    [1:23:23] – What does efficiency mean to you?

        • Getting what you want in the most effective way.

    [1:24:05] – Which of the three things would you keep doing over and over again to get back to success?

        • Focus on building meaningful relationships. 
        • Think in systems and not in kind of individual tasks.
        • I would probably rethink the number of meetings I’m taking in any given week.

     

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    IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

    I find that introverts are generally the best one on one connectors that are able to form much deeper relationships in a one on one basis.

    Joshua Chin

    Think in systems and not in kind of individual tasks.

    Joshua Chin

    Efficiency is getting what you want in the most effective way.

    Joshua Chin

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    Manifesting, Mindset & Magic with Anita Garza

    Manifesting, Mindset & Magic with Anita Garza

    Manifesting, Mindset & Magic with Anita Garza

    Anita Garza was Born in Africa and raised in Germany. She’s also a mom of two kids that ran her life for the most part. She is a Channel, a Healer, a Mentor and Leader and calls herself an “Improvement” Psychic, who does not just read the potential for your future, but also helps you to get there as well as an Energy Coach. She uses her Gifts to help her Clients create the most aligned flow with their own Infinite Intelligence, so they get to shine to the fullest in their Zone of Genius. In today’s episode, Anita and Monique are talking about her Message about Acceptance and Unsubscribing from what you know to lead with Powerful Intention. She doesn't just tell you about your Potential. She'll show you how to reach it.

    HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

    [1:06] – Monique introduces her guest, Anita Garza.

     

    [1:42] – Please tell us a little bit about yourself. Your name, where you’re from and what you do.

    • I’m Anita and I live in Texas right now and I call myself an “Improvement” Psychic.

     

    [2:33] – If you know about the future and tell us how to get there, what’s going up for the rest of the year?

    • I simply don’t get anything.

     

    [4:51] – What do you usually say to people what they could do in “here and now” to go with change and accept it and maybe to grow with it?

    • Accepting that things aren’t going to change.
    • Start with accepting the way that you are feeling about the change.

     

    [5:55] – When did you figure out in your life for the first time that you had these “psychic abilities”?

    • I believe I have always had it all my life and my family.

     

    [14:26] – How was it to grow up in Bavaria, especially as a black family, not having many connections around with people?

    • I had a good childhood.
    • It’s just that people who were outside of my family or outside of the village, are just ignorants.

     

    [15:45] – Is there a way to compare racism in Germany to racism in America?

    • In Germany, it was just ignorance of racism.
    • In America it’s violent racism.

     

    [26:45] – Anita talks about moving to Alaska together with her ex-husband.

     

    [34:24] –  Tell me a little bit about what you do with this human design?

    • I really help people with understanding their energy.

     

    [51:06] – What do you do to get back in your power?

    • Absolutely nothing. 
    • One thing I don’t do is give myself a hard time.

     

    [52:18]  – Why do you think many people give themselves a hard time and not listen to what they need?

    • Programming of the society.

     

    [1:02:05] –  What does efficiency mean to you?

    • I am most efficient when I’m most connected.

     

    [1:02:38] – Which of the three things would you keep doing over and over again to get back to success?

    • Learning to accept myself.
    • Trusting myself.
    • Really connecting and always recognizing the magic in me. 

      IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

      One thing I don’t do is give myself a hard time at all.

      Anita Garza

      The more magic I see in myself, the more magic I see in other people.

      Anita Garza

      I am most efficient when I’m most connected.

      Anita Garza

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